Meet Renee & Ted

Ted Moehler needed help navigating the growing responsibilities of caring for his wife. Renée Moehler was losing her ability to put things together in the proper order, often was confused and experiencing memory loss. She was eventually diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia.

Ted found Bacoa when searching for a support group offering education and resources for caregivers dealing with dementia and memory loss. He joined Bacoa’s Alzheimer’s Support Group, and the couple attended Bacoa’s Memory Café, which offers socialization for people with memory loss. But caregiving became increasingly difficult, and Ted grappled with the decision to place Renée in a memory care facility—until he found the clarity he needed at one of the Alzheimer’s Support Group sessions. In January she moved to a memory community in Arlington Heights.

Since Renée’s move, the biggest change Ted has noticed—in addition to the relief of knowing his wife is safe and receiving the care she needs—is their relationship. They laugh and talk again as a couple. Ted continues to meet with the Alzheimer’s Support Group, and visits with Renée every day via Zoom, FaceTime or on phone calls since the COVID stay-at-home order.